After a while

I was wondering alone about this poem and I wanted to share. I hope you enjoy every single line.


After some time you learn the difference, the subtle difference between holding hands and chaining a soul.
And you learn that to love somebody doesn't mean mean to engage in co-dependency and that being in a relationship doesn't always mean emotional safety.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and gifts aren't promises.
And you start to accetp your failures with your head held hight and eyes straight ahead with the grace of a mature adult and not with a displeasure of a child.
And you learn to build your roads today, to consider tomorrow, and with the future's uncertainty, the understanding that these plans may fail.
After a while you learn that prolonged exposure to the sun's rays burn your flesh.
And you learn it doesn't matter how much you care, because there is always someone who won't.
And you learn that it doesn't matter how good a person is at heart she'll hurt your feelings someday and you need to be able to forgive her.
You learn that speak out may alliviate the burden of your negative emotions.
You discovery that you need many long years to build confidence and only mere seconds to destroi it and you learn you can make many impulsive mistakes in but a moment, and you'll feel sorry for the rest of your life
You learn that real friendship keeps growing even if distance separates you, and what matters isn't what you have in your life but who you have.
And good friends are the family we can choose.
You learn we don't have to change ours friends if we figure out they don't change. You must realize you and your friend can do anything or nothing and have memorable times spent together.
You discovery people who you care about are grabed from you very quickly. This's why you should leave people you love with lovely words, may be the last time you're seeing them.
You learn that the circumstance and the environment influence us but that we're responsable for ourselves and our decisions.
You begin to learn we don't have to compere ourselves with the others but with what is best inside of ourselves. You must realize that it takes time to be who you want to be and that our time on earth is too short.
You learn that it scarcely matters where you are, but it does matter where you're going. And if you don't know where you're going, anywhere will do.
You learn you have to control your actions or your actions will control you.
Being flexible doesn't mean you are being weak or without personality because no matter the situation, delicate and fragile or harsh and unforgiving, there will always be two sides to the story.
You learn that heroes are people that did what was necessary in dire straits, facing the consequences with stoicism.
You learn that to be patient requires nearly endless practice.
You uncover the truth that sometimes the person who you think would kick you when you are upon your hands and knees, is one among few who would help you stand once more.
You learn that maturity is more about experience and what you learned with from it than how many birthdays you have celebrated.
You learn over time that you have more in common with your mother and father than you could ever have imagined.
You learn you never say to a child that his dreams are just foolishness; few things can be so depressing.
You learn that when you feel anger you can experience it but it does not mean you should be cruel or uncontrolled.
You discovery that if someone does not love you the way you want them to, it does not mean that he does not love you completely for we all have people that love us but do not know how to show us their love or live with it.
You learn that is not always enough to be forgiven by someone else, sometimes we need to learn to forgive ourselves.
You learn that with the same severity you judge others, you yourself will be judged at any given moment by others.
You learn that it does not matter into how many pieces your heart was broken, the world does not stop to allow you the time to fix it.
You learn that time is not something you can turn back no matter how much you wish it was so.
So, plant your seeds and water your soil, instead of simply waiting expectantly for someone to bring you flowers.
You learn that you really can endure... that you're strong enough and that you can go even farther after you think you can't stand it anymore.
You discover that life possesses inherent value, and that you can appreciate it fully.
The present is deceitful and tricks us into losing our good things that you could earn if you were not afraid to try.

William Shakespeare

What a wonderful world

I was wondering how wonderful the world would be without preconception. pherhaps people could shake hands and ask "How are you?" and wouldn't worry about religions, money, skin color or any other subject that keeps people apart.
We already are in the 21th century and we still have mediocre people who think the skin color makes someone better or worse. The haven't realized yet the skin color doesn't say how good/honest a person is.
Another kind of preconception we still have is the religion preconception. People fight because the can't understand and respect other people who think in a different way.
Unfortunately we find a preconception within poor people because them can be despised by a person who has to realize the material things don't make anyone better.
I particulary love a song written by Louis Armstrong that talks about a wonderful world. In my own perspective, if the people would do what the song says, the world would be much lovelier.

I see trees of green, red roses too
I see them bloom for me and you
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world

I see skies so blue and clouds of white
The bright blessed day, the dark sacred night
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world

The colors of the rainbow, so pretty in the sky
Are also on the faces of people going by
I see friends shaking hands, saying, "how do you do?"
They're really saying, "I love you"

I hear babies cry, I watch them grow
They'll learn much more, than I'll never know
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world

Yes, I think to myself, what a wonderful world

Louis Armstrong

Ensinamento de criança

Estava pensando em uma regra quem um dia aprendi ainda criança e até hoje tenho como minha filosofia de vida.
Compartilho no meu blog essa regra e espero que seja de grande valia para todos.

Regra dos 3 R's
- Respeito a si;
- Respeito aos outros;
- Responsabilidade pelos seus atos.


E também deixo aqui duas frases que me marcaram desde o momento em que as li.

- Você se torna responsável por aqueles que cativas.

- Quando apontar um dedo para alguém, não se esqueça quem tem 3 dedos apontados para você.

Com o tempo...

Com o tempo... Você aprende que estar com alguém, só porque esse alguém lhe oferece um bom futuro, significa que mais cedo ou mais tarde você irá querer voltar ao passado...
Com o tempo... Você se dará conta que casar só porque “está na hora”, é uma clara advertência de que o seu matrimônio será um fracasso...
Com o tempo... Você compreende que só quem é capaz de lhe amar com os seus defeitos, sem pretender mudar-lhe, é que pode lhe dar toda a felicidade que deseja...
Com o tempo... Você se dará conta de que se você está ao lado de uma pessoa só para não ficar sozinho(a), com certeza uma hora vai desejar não voltar a vê-la..
Com o tempo... Você se dará conta de que ter amigos vale mais do que qualquer montante em dinheiro......e entende que os “verdadeiros amigos” se contam nos dedos, e que aquele que não luta para tê-los, mais cedo ou mais tarde se verá rodeado unicamente de amizades falsas...
Com o tempo... Você aprende que as palavras ditas num momento de raiva podem continuar a magoar a quem você disse durante toda a vida...
Com o tempo... Você aprende que desculpar todos o fazem, mas perdoar, somente as “almas grandes” conseguem...
Com o tempo... Você compreende que se você feriu muito um amigo, provavelmente a amizade jamais será a mesma...
Com o tempo... Você se dá conta de que cada experiência vivida com cada pessoa é insubstituível e única...
Com o tempo... Você se dá conta de que aquele que humilha ou despreza um ser humano, mais cedo ou mais tarde sofrerá as mesmas humilhações e desprezos, só que multiplicados...
Com o tempo... Você aprende a construir todos os seus caminhos hoje, porque o terreno do amanhã é demasiado incerto para fazer planos...
Com o tempo... Você compreende que apressar as coisas ou forçá-las para que aconteçam, fará com que no final não sejam como você esperava...
Com o tempo... Você se dará conta de que, na realidade, o melhor não era o futuro, mas sim o momento que estava vivendo naquele instante...
Com o tempo... Você aprende que tentar perdoar ou pedir perdão, dizer que ama ou dizer que sente falta, dizer que precisa ou que quer ser... Junto de um caixão... ... deixa de fazer sentido...
Por isso, recorde sempre estas palavras: “O HOMEM TORNA-SE VELHO MUITO RÁPIDO E SÁBIO DEMASIADO TARDE”, exatamente quando: “JÁ NÃO HÁ TEMPO”

Desconheço o Autor

Looking back and to the future.

I was thinking about which way in our lives we should look and I realized we have three kinds of people: those who look just back, those who look to the future and the third one who looks in both directions.

From my own perspective, the people who look back are people that don't care a lot about the future. They're so thankful for what life has given them but they don't have a lot of hope. They're happy with what they have and everything for them is fine.

The kind of people who look just in to the future, sometimes they're thankful for what they had / have. But they just want more and more. It's a good point you want to be a winner and work for what you want. But sometimes these people don't appreciate what they'd had before.

Finally the third kind of people for me are the people who look back and they're thankful and appreciate everything that happened with them before but at the same time, they look forward. And they look for a better life, a better job or whatever they want to.

These people keep believing in their dreams, making everything possible.

So in this way they can look back and foward and be proud of themselves.

Castelo de areia

Num dia de verão, estava na praia, observando duas crianças brincando na areia.
Elas trabalhavam muito, construindo um castelo de areia, com torres, passarelas e passagens internas.
Quando estavam quase acabando, veio uma onda e destruiu tudo, reduzindo o castelo à um monte de areia e espuma.
Achei que as crianças cairiam no choro, depois de tanto esforço e cuidado, mas tive uma surpresa.
Em vez de chorar, correram para a praia, fugindo da água,
Sorrindo, de mãos dadas e começaram a construir outro castelo...
Compreendi que havia recebido uma importante lição:
Gastamos muito tempo de nossas vidas construindo alguma coisa.
E mais cedo ou mais tarde, uma onda poderá vir e destruir o que levamos tanto tempo para construir.
Mas quando isso acontecer, somente aquele que tem as mãos de alguém para segurar, será capaz de Sorrir !!!.
Tudo é feito de areia;
Só o que permanece é o nosso relacionamento com as outras pessoas.

Autor Desconhecido.

Jealousy

I was thinking about how jealous people can be helpless. Yes! They can be helpless!!!

The jealous people have their reasons to be that way, sometimes because they want to do what we are doing, sometimes because it is about something that happened to them in the past.
Nobody likes to be around a jealous person, but it is inevitable because they're everywhere, especially at work.

Have you noticed what they say when you suggest a task or ask for some help?
They always tell you that whatever you are doing is not good enough or that it is terrible. And this is the big point! What you have done is really great and they wish they could do that, too.

Listen to them carefully, take out what is not useful and add some ideas that they gave to you while they were saying your work is not good.

They're jealous, I know, but they have another viewpoint and this can help you to add more information and make your work much better.

Para refletir - O Sentido dos Gansos

No outono, quando se vêem bandos de aves voando, formando um grande V no céu, indaga-se o porquê de voarem desta forma. Sabe-se que quando cada ave bate as asas, move o ar para cima, ajudando a sustentar a ave imediatamente de trás. Ao voar em forma de V, o bando se beneficia com muito mais força de vôo do que uma ave voando sozinha.

Pessoas que têm a mesma direção e sentido de comunidade podem atingir seus objetivos de forma mais rápida e fácil, pois viajam beneficiando-se de um impulso mútuo.

Sempre que uma ave sai do bando, sente subitamente o esforço e a resistência necessários para continuar voando sozinha. Rapidamente, ela entra outra vez em formação para aproveitar o deslocamento de ar provocado pela ave que voa imediatamente à sua frente.

Se tivéssemos o mesmo sentido, manter-nos-íamos em formação com o que lideram o caminho para onde também desejamos seguir.

Quando a ave líder se cansa, ela muda de posição dentro da formação e outra assume a liderança.

Vale a pena nos revezarmos em tarefas difíceis, e isto serve tanto para as pessoas quanto para as aves que voam juntas. As aves de trás gritam encorajando as da frente para que mantenham a velocidade.

Finalmente quando uma ave fica doente ou, se fere, duas aves saem da formação e a acompanham para ajudá-la e protegê-la. Ficam com ela até que consiga voar novamente ou morra. Só então, levantam vôo, sozinhas, ou em outra formação.

Se tivéssemos o sentido das aves também ficaríamos da mesma forma um ao lado do outro para apoiar o mais fraco.

Autoria desconhecida.

Looking around

I was looking around at the different kinds of publicity in different places.
A lot of times when I walked in Sao Paulo and I would see a good advertisement I would ask myself: What are the advertisementS like in the USA?
After traveling around in some states of the USA, I realize what the advertisements are like and I've enjoyed them.
I cannot say advertisements in Brazil are more beautiful or useful than those in the United States, I just can say that different cultures make the advertisements more interesting.

You can see, below, some advertisements that I have gathered to share with you.

Train Station - New Jersey


Train Station - New Jersey


Billboard - New York

Billboard - New Jersey